When I found out I was going to lose my hair one of the first things I thought of, outside of a wig, was what can I do to distract from my bald head? What could my “signature” item(s) be? After a bit of thought I decided on two things – 1. Big, bold, beautiful earrings. 2. A teal baseball cap, I just wasn’t sure what I was going to go with yet.
When it comes to earrings, I usually wear something fairly simple, nothing flashy, just classic, that will go with just about anything. That was about to change. I began looking for anything that dangled (think 2.5”+) and had a bold pattern or color online until I’d decided upon a couple and was ready to go and look at them in person. The Thursday before the head shaving party I headed to J.Crew, they had several pairs I wanted to look at and they were having a sale (I HATE paying full price for anything!!).
I ended up loving three pairs. These were what I was going to start with, and should do the trick. I wanted to see how often I was actually brave enough to go without my wig…at that time I had no idea that I’d be half way through my treatments and only have worn it 1 time (that’s about to change this week, I have 2 things that I’m wearing it to – Olivia’s field trip and a shower for one of my girlfriends on Saturday evening. I got one too many questions from Olivia’s classmates about where my hair was when I was volunteering in the classroom last week and she’s had a more difficult time with everything recently)
It must have become evident in my photos early on that large earrings were becoming my thing, a few of my girlfriends have given me pairs to add to my collection and I love them! I love that they’re supporting me and helping me feel confident when I go out!
And I’m sure by now, if you follow me on social media or see me in person, you know my go-to hat is my teal Black Clover hat (it’s premium color #11 if you’re curious, but color #71 is the reverse and I now have both). I had no idea I what I was looking for in a hat, but my “sister” (if you go back, this means Carrie…although we’re not blood, she’s my sister) said why don’t you just find some hats, you look great in hats. I wanted something different – Black Clover’s slogan is “Live Lucky” and that spoke pretty true to my situation, so I Googled teal Black Clover hat and up popped the hat I now wear all the time. I also bought a camo one that I love, but hadn’t thought about trucker style scratching my head…note if you’re looking for hats because you’ve lost your hair, steer clear of a stiff trucker style, it’s a wee bit scratchy.
Their premium fitted hats are made of the softest material, it’s fantastic! And although Black Clover probably didn’t intend for this hat to be used for Ovarian Cancer, I’m not the only one sporting it – several women I’ve connected with on social media have purchased one and love it just as well. My family (this includes my closest friends) have them and wear them to support me. It’s been an excellent way to spread awareness – because it’s such a sharp looking hat people comment on it all the time and they usually respond with “thanks! My daughter/friend has Ovarian Cancer and this is her go-to hat, so I wear it too”. It’s nice, it makes my heart happy!
Now, I’m not saying you need to rush out and buy this hat, or large, obnoxious earrings – what I’m saying is find something that makes you smile and becomes your “signature” piece that makes you feel good about yourself or is comfy. Hats and earrings might not be your thing, I get it, look for things that make you smile, that make you forget about the fact that your hair is gone and some days you look a bit sick.
I can’t tell you how big my smile probably is when someone says “I like your earrings, they’re great” – it means they looked past the fact that my head is bald and my port is probably showing and saw me, saw something other than the obvious!